To my fellow women,
Do you still remember those times when he would choose his friends over you? Times when even if you have an important occasion to celebrate, he would rather go out overnight with his friends even if he can choose to stay with you? Times when he would choose not-so-important things in exchange with some quality time with you? There are also times when you will notice that he is happier bonding with his friends compared to the times when you are together. Sometimes, you can’t help to somehow compare yourself with the way he treats you. While he is doing these things, there you are, lying on your bed and waiting for his calls, waiting for him to say “I love you and I will make it up to you”. Do you still remember that time when he promised to bring you where he and his friends go but he never did? Promises that was broken and promises that he breaks over and over again. I know you are hurt, you are badly hurt. And I wouldn’t say that it’s okay because it will never be okay. Being the last option is not okay.
Being in a relationship is never easy. It takes a lot of courage and strength for you to be able to endure trials and pain. Sometimes, the person that strengthens us will also be that person who would destroy us. Yes, that person can break your heart into pieces over and over again. I know you would always choose to stay with that person because you love him. And love is not just a feeling, it’s a choice. However, how long will you choose to love him if he used to make you feel that you will always be his last option?
If you are in a relationship or not, you don’t deserve to be the last option. You should know your importance because it’s YOU who would always build yourself up in times when no one seems to see your value.
Written by Dea Vergara