Lessons On (Self) Love: How To Achieve Freedom from Hatred And Guilt

Artwork by Dakota Bardy

Artwork by Dakota Bardy


There will always be people who will hate you and there will always be people that you hate.

And these people that target you with their own unjustifiable hatred, more often than not, are joined by people who support their hatred of you, because why not?

They just want to be acknowledged.

Some people just say things because they want to be ‘heard’. ‘Hatred companions’ some people are that.

You can hate things together.

That’s a dangerous thing, to be honest.

People being supported for the wrong reasons, is a dangerous situation because they lose sight of what is ‘right’ and ‘wrong’.

They’re RIGHT because everybody says they are.

Reciprocating hatred with hatred is useless. Reciprocating it with ‘love’ is useless too. It’s noble and all, but some people just won’t get it. Ignoring it won’t help either.

ACKNOWLEDGE this hatred without letting it get to you. Be free enough to stand against it with rationality and level-headedness.

Freedom from Guilt

Free yourself from all the guilt of not having or being or not achieving what you thought you would’ve had by now.

Let me ask you a question, where will this useless guilt and regret leave you? In tears and in useless pain.


To dream again and again, to try again and again or to give up and start something new.

YOU are the only one who will suffer if you waste your life AND your precious time, being tied down by your own guilt and frustrations.

FREEDOM is knowing what you deserve and having the dedication to cut through the failures and disappointments, to get it.

It’s said that when you REALLY, TRULY, desire something, the whole universe conspires to help you.

Just because you tried once and didn’t get it, doesn’t mean you won’t ever get it.

Nothing good comes easily. It might take time, but if you’re ADAMENT about wanting what you really want, you’ll have it.

Even GOD himself would make way for you.

TRUST yourself, please.

There is freedom in trusting yourself.

Even if it is always raining in your life, there is still a sun behind the grey clouds. Don’t forget about it. Wait, this storm will clear up.

Be ready when it DOES clear up. Don’t stay dormant when the sun finally shines because you got used to the rain.

You’re the ONLY one who can set yourself free. I promise.

Oshin Ahlawat is a young poet and writer based in New Delhi, India. “I believe people who write are like tornados and cyclones. We wreck a lot of lives; for better or worse. It all depends on the people who read our work. They decide where the damage is going to be; the heart or the mind and whether it’s going to be for the good or for worse. I wish to give them the choice to decide that. I’m just going to focus on doing what I want”, she says. 

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