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An Open Letter To The Next Woman He Falls In Love With

Photography by Christophe Kutner

Photography by Christophe Kutner

I will meet you. Yes, I will. It maybe awkward at first but relax sweetie, I am not gonna take him away.
First things first, love him unconditionally. He is stubborn and hard-headed at times but you’ll get used to it. He’ll ask you for advice on some matters but will still do the opposite. He’s weird that way. If you two are together, talk about everything and anything. He loves talking even when he tells you he’s the shy type (only at first).  Stimulate his mind. Share your political views, notion on extra terrestrials, time machines, philosophy in life, and everything. Read as he loves reading too. As long as you have your dictionary app on your smartphone, you’re good. He often uses some deep words in a conversation. I still haven’t figured out why. Maybe because it sounds better? I don’t know. It’s actually okay coz you’ll add some words in your vocabulary bank. Speaking of the bright side huh?
I need to warn you though, He is a riddler and often times it occurs when you’re not on guard. So watch out. I know you are cunning so I am quite sure you’ll pass. There will be days when he is so worried about everything, always remind him that everything’s gonna be alright. Stop him before he hibernates. Better yet, never let him hibernate. Give him time and space, he loves his solitary moments. Play with him. Be crazy with him too. Laugh at his jokes even some of it aren’t really that funny. He loves seeing you smile. It makes his heart smile too.
Watch the stars together, it calms his soul. Find the moon and show it to him first. He loves how it shines so bright at night. Lean on his shoulders and let him play with your hair. Let him smell you even if you don’t feel like it. Your scent will be his personal drug. That’s how he will be addicted to you and love you too. Yeah, I know. He’s that weird.
Make your hand always available as he loves holding it. Always bring a hanky or a towel with you so that you can wipe his sweat. He’s like a walking waterfall. Remind him to use shampoo and to comb his hair as he loves to take a bath but doesn’t bother to shampoo his hair and end up complaining why his scalp itches. Comb and tie his hair as he doesn’t care how it looks. Even if it makes him look ugly. Make sure he gets to eat well because he’s a hungry panda but don’t let him eat too much for he will end up complaining about his tummy getting big.
Encourage him to work out. He will make excuses as to he doesn’t have any supplements yet but don’t let him. Tell him to run to burn those belly fats, to do some cardio first. Push him to his limits. He really wants to see those 8 packs he’s been dreaming of. Better yet, work out with him. It would be fun and a nice bonding.
Know that as much as he loves listening to the new trends in music, he is an old soul who also loves opm and the 50s-80s era. He loves singing though he wouldn’t admit it. He will always sing with feelings. He will sing for you and replace the pronoun/subject to whatever your endearment is. It is sweet and funny at the same time. You will love it.
Above all, walk in faith with him. Read the bible together. Talk to God and about God. Make Him the center of your relationship and do not lead each other to sin instead, lead each other closer to God. Pray, pray together. Don’t let arguments stop you from praying before you guys go to sleep. He doesn’t like it when you retire to rest and haven’t resolved the problem yet. Join bible studies together. It will be the most amazing thing you two will do. It would make you know each other more as you both get closer to God.
Loving him wouldn’t be easy. Sometimes, you’ll end up frustrated but don’t give up. He is worth it. Be the woman behind his success. Support him in his every endeavor. Tell him that he is able and capable of success. There are times that he’s living by the day and dreading, but be the light to guide him. I know it’s a lot but he will do more for you. Be a friend, partner and a lover. I would love to see you two together growing physically, mentally and spiritually. Covering all the bases.
Lastly, do not ever get jealous of me. I was here before you arrived. Rest assured that I will never intervene with your relationship. I am his best friend and spiritual partner. Nothing more, nothing less. Yeah, I used to love him but God has other plans. I was given to him for a reason. To prepare him for you are coming. God knows how I know potential when I see it. God used me to help him during the time when he thought he didn’t need anyone. And now, my work is done. But before I go, I just want to make sure he’s well taken cared of. I will be a call away for you two. I know I will love you too.
PS: You are amazing that’s why he fell in love with you. Let nothing stand between you and him. You two are stronger together.
Love,
The woman before you.
Written by Mae N. Gumban